Kolkata’s streets and the pursuit of affection throughout Durga Puja are reduce from the identical material, a cloth of probability and inevitability. Each unsuitable flip may open like a trapdoor — into an ornate, never-seen-before pandal, or into the orbit of a stranger whose look lingers a heartbeat too lengthy within the bhog (providing) queue. The novelty of the season feels conspiratorial: the joys of a primary encounter or a wonderfully timed meet cute. Or on Navami, when the smoke of Sandhi Puja coils across the fading festivities, there’s a lingering ache, a reminder of a love that by no means fairly blossomed. By Dashami, because the goddess herself departs for her sojourn, one may even be ghosted by the Hinge date who promised a lot.

For generations, Durga Puja has been greater than a competition. It has been Kolkata’s most democratic stage for social life, an area the place younger women and men exchanged glances at Maddox Sq., or struck up conversations below the neon lights of Ballygunge Cultural. It was, in some ways, Bengal’s authentic social community, its first courting app even.  

The town has modified, and the pandals with it — easy buildings now reborn as spectacles match for a biennale however the pulse stays. Mother and father who as soon as discovered love in puja golf equipment have kids who swipe proper earlier than stepping out to hop pandals. Courtship has shifted from adda to algorithm, but pujo stays Kolkata’s canvas for encounters each outdated and new.

“I bear in mind seeing him for the primary time at a pujo pandal,” recollects 57-year-old Anisha Shaw (identify modified), who met her husband, Ashish Basu (identify modified), at Shib Mandir’s puja pandal in 1996. “Pujo was less complicated then. We mates circled across the pandal for hours of adda (dialog), helped with the bhog, ferried buckets of water, and fried beguni (aubergine fritters) in large kadhais (utensils). Somebody’s cousin can be despatched working to Gariahat to fetch extra mustard oil or kasundi (mustard). It was that type of Pujo. Ashish and I saved working into one another. A 12 months later, we had been married.”

In distinction, Anisha’s daughter, 27-year-old sous chef Mishka Basu (identify modified), met her fiancé on Bumble in 2024. Their romance started with a proper swipe and a primary date at AM PM on Park Avenue. The place their mother and father’ love story unfolded between alpanas and serving tables, theirs started in an app’s chat window.

Algorithms earlier than anjali (prayers)

“So in your world, multiplication is similar as division?” That was the primary line 29-year-old engineer Arpan Majumdar despatched to 26-year-old IT-healthcare skilled Sailanki Nandy on Tinder — a witty reference to her microbiology background. “In cell biology, ‘division’ is when a father or mother cell splits into two daughter cells, which truly multiplies their quantity,” she explains. “I melted proper then,” Sailanki laughs. “I’d chatted with so many boys, however nobody bothered to put in writing one thing intelligent like that. Now individuals use AI-generated strains.”

Sailanki had dabbled in courting apps like Bumble and OkCupid throughout school, logging in “for a little bit of validation” and deleting them after a number of days. However within the lengthy, lonely months of COVID-19 in 2020, she determined to provide Tinder a critical attempt.

“Arpan was staying at his sister’s home in Jadavpur, and I used to be in Behala. He’s from Barrackpore, however our radii overlapped, and we matched,” she recollects.

Durga Puja, she says, has at all times held deep which means. “I grew up in a joint household. Puja meant cousins coming again to town adopted by loud, festive days.” Their first pujo collectively was in 2021. “We deliberate to satisfy on Ashtami — me in a sari, him in a panjabi (kurta). However he acquired meals poisoning on Saptami. I advised him to relaxation, however that night time he insisted, ‘Chol, North Kolkata te thakur dekhte jai’ – let’s go see the pandals in North Kolkata. I believed he was loopy. He travelled from Barrackpore regardless of being unwell, simply so we might meet. We queued for one large pandal, however I stated, ‘Should you want a toilet break, we’ll be caught in a sea of individuals!’ So we ducked right into a café close by, sitting near the restroom, laughing about it.”

On Dashami morning they lastly went pandal-hopping in South Kolkata, and afterward Arpan got here dwelling to satisfy her household. “That was our first Pujo collectively,” she says.

“He’s the kindest individual I’ve ever met — so real. His Tinder opening line nonetheless makes me smile foolish. Subsequent 12 months we’re getting married. This Pujo we shall be again in Kolkata to speak about our wedding ceremony,” Sailanki provides.

Person behaviour 

Talking about courting patterns throughout the festive season, Chandni Gaglani, Indian courting app Aisle’s head of enterprise observes clear “pre- and submit competition” waves. “We see intense intent setting,” she explains. “Individuals replace bios, refine filters, even tweak distance or language preferences to quick checklist matches earlier than celebrations start. Utilization frequency spikes, then dips as soon as Durga Puja is in full swing, when everyone seems to be absorbed in household and neighborhood. After the competition, there’s a stupendous reflection interval.”

Chandni notes that social, community-driven festivals exert a really totally different pull than international events similar to Valentine’s Day. “These moments are deeply cultural and rooted in belonging,” she says. “They faucet into one thing elementary about id and neighborhood.”

Kolkata, she provides, sees the very best feminine participation on the courting app. “The town has at all times had a romantic, mental tradition the place relationships are handled as critical endeavours. We see that in how thoughtfully customers craft profiles and conversations,” remarks Chandni.

Aisle’s customers vary from ages 18 to 50, however the largest group is the 26 to 35 demographic most inclined towards long run dedication. “This cohort has sometimes moved away from their hometowns, established careers, and now seeks significant partnerships on their very own phrases,” Chandni explains.

On the expertise aspect, she emphasises that Aisle’s algorithm “takes indicators from consumer exercise and adapts accordingly, however the selection and management at all times stay with our customers.” The app’s For You part is curated not simply by age or location, she says, however by “shared values and pursuits. Such indicators increase the chances of actual compatibility fairly than merely exhibiting everybody who matches broad standards.”

Throughout Age Teams

Thirty-eight-year-old Purnendu Guha (identify modified), a reporter in Kolkata, has been utilizing courting apps since 2020, a 12 months after his divorce.

“Being a reporter, I don’t have sufficient time to exit on dates, and I can’t actually date individuals from my office,” he says. “However assembly somebody throughout pujo is totally different. Throughout these 5 days, I get to work together with the individual totally, see how they reply to artwork, how they work together with individuals, deal with cash whereas shopping for from distributors, and in the event that they’re checking different individuals out,” he laughs.

“For me, pujo makes courting safer too because it’s all in public areas. I’ve been doing this yearly since 2020. No encounter has culminated right into a relationship but, however I’ve made good mates who share my values and my curiosity in artwork. Once you meet somebody in a café, the time is brief, and the dialog stays on the floor. However throughout pujo, with longer hours and fixed brushes with tradition and artwork, I discover each of us open up extra.”

This 12 months, he already has a plan. “I’m assembly my date at a Raja Ravi Varma themed pandal in Tricone Park,” he says, smiling. “I have already got butterflies!”

Talking of how pujo has modified, 33-year-old software program engineers Kaustav and Arjoyita Banerjee recall a distinct time. The 2 started courting in 2010 after sparking a romance on Orkut.

“Again then, you could possibly truly stand in entrance of a pandal and take all of it in,” Kaustav says. “Now it’s close to stampede crowds, you barely get a second to take a look at the decorations, not to mention meet somebody new.” After a decade of courting and 6 years of marriage, the couple now prefers internet hosting a home celebration throughout pujo as an alternative of braving the crush exterior.

A way of anonymity nonetheless issues, says Megha Palit, a 34-year-old occasion planner and lesbian who meets ladies largely by way of courting apps. “Hinge is the place the primary whats up occurs,” she explains, “however pujo is the place you discover out if the chemistry is actual. You’ll be able to wander Maddox Sq. at midnight, maintain somebody’s hand, and nobody is aware of whether or not you’re simply mates or one thing extra.”

She remembers her school years, lengthy earlier than swipes and matches, when Durga Puja was the one place she might danger a cheeky flirtation with one other lady. “It’s crowded, nameless, and oddly protecting,” she says. “The town is so busy worshipping the goddess it forgets to police you. Even now, after we’ve matched on-line, that’s the place I take a date first. In the course of the lights and the dhak, you may breathe and perhaps fall a bit in love.”

Sreejita Chakraborty, a 28-year-old entrepreneur, and her 32-year-old husband, Aditya Sengupta, a gross sales strategist, met on Tinder in 2021.

“Being a Bengali who grew up in Delhi, pujo for me at all times meant 4 packed days at CR Park,” Aditya says.

“Sreejita is from Kolkata and my first pujo along with her was so particular,” recollects Aditya. After their marriage, he remembers a second that stayed with him, “As our flight descended upon the Kolkata skyline, the brilliant lights beneath felt like they had been chatting with me.”

Through the years, as their relationship deepened, Pujo has taken on a richer which means. “It’s not nearly romantic love,” he says. “Now it’s about wheeling my 90-year-old grandmother by way of the pandals, as a result of the enjoyment of discovering new pandals and appreciating the artistry of every means little until it’s shared with household,” smiles Aditya.

Kolkata has at all times left its doorways ajar for thriller and awe to wander in. Durga Puja takes the guts of its individuals and blurs the vary of immersive experiences annually. The goddess comes and goes however leaves behind a thousand small awakenings. Apps could begin the dialog now, however the true magic nonetheless occurs below these stressed, fevered nights when Kolkata forgets itself and remembers want.